Uti Nwachukwu Writes: I Must Marry or Else!

Nigerian model, actor and TV personality Uti 

Nwachukwu 

has written a new piece exclusively for BN.

Hmmmm how old is she? Why isn’t she married??

This one he is still single. Maybe he traded his marriage 

for wealth via JuJu

They say She was very promiscuous in her young days 

o! And see her she is married!! Where is my own 

LORRRRRD!!!! WHY ME??!!!

WAKE UP NIGERIANS!

My word!

I think Nigerians are the hardest to convince that times 

have changed!

Which is why we are finding it hard to fully develop as a 

country? #FACT!

The amount of importance and relevance attached to 

marriage in this side of the world is the main reason for 

DEPRESSION, FAILURE, UNFULFILLED LIVES, 

PRETENSE AND UNREPORTED SUICIDE! And I’m not 

talking about the single folks here!

It’s crazy shocking and alarming that till now people still 

succumb to pressure and just marry the next person 

they date!

Wooooow!

In my opinion it is better to die single than to marry and 

be stuck with the wrong person! Cos that itself is early 

death!

You have lived your lives, produced and raised good 

children… If you did a good job at it, you should trust 

your kids enough to make the right adult decisions at 

the 

right time! Stop the pressure!! Some of you have forced 

your kids into abusive relationships just so that you can 

save face and Brag that 

ahh all my children are married ooo! So continue 

bragging when you have to go and fetch their bodies 

from a Hospital or even worse a mortuary!! Yep it’s been 

happening in this country. Husbands beating their wives 

to death…wives stabbing or shooting their husbands.

Thank God for the kind of parents and Family I have o.

MIND YOUR DARN BUSINESS AND FOCUS ON YOUR 

OWN LIVES!

The truth is…people that are happily married and busy 

raising a family have absolutely no time to bother about 

who is single, why they are single, who is married and 

staying married.

Most embarrassingly is a married person getting involved 

in gossip about singles. Kai!!! Signs of a failing/unhappy 

marriage include- serious levels of 

Aproko! Hahaha

The earlier we accept the better for us!

Most people do not listen to their spirits and or seek 

God 

deeply. They just fling themselves into unions just so 

they can be ‘MARRIED’.

Times have changed!

People are not staying married! Men are getting more 

and 

more irresponsible, women are getting more successful 

and intolerant of men’s childish behaviors and oh they 

are also bold enough to explore extra-marital affairs 

now.

It’s crazy how me, a bachelor, would go out to a club 

and at 2/3am I’m tired and I want to go 

home and the married dudes are saying…where u de go 

Na???? Party never finish!!

*straight face**

REALLY???!! Who is cuddling your wife at this ungodly 

hour? Why is she sleeping alone for Goodness sake!

Even worse is when a married person says…Uti 

introduce me to one small fine girl Na .i de de lonely 

sometimes ….

OH WOW!!!

Very 

irresponsible but HEAVY STATEMENT.

Married and Lonely?? Hmmmmm

Let’s not forget that thanks to social media some equally 

lonely and bored housewives are snagging young fit 

men 

daily!!!! I mean the rate is alarming!

In some marriages the husbands are constantly cheating 

as well as the wives??!

So wait, why marry?!!!! Why??

Really. DID God say a man MUST Marry?!

Is there a commandment that says THALL SHALT 

MARRY!

Yes Jesus said if you cannot hold yourself from 

fornicating then marry! But ALAS THERE is a 

commandment that clearly states: THOU SHALT NOT 

COMMIT ADULTERY!!!

So let’s not always pull out scriptures to support our 

bias.

If we do that one we go bible mortal combat. Lol

I dare say this!!…NOT EVERYONE IS SUPPOSED TO 

MARRY!!!!!

I don’t think people know what marriage vows are o!!! 

People are really take God for 

granted!!!!

Let’s analyze it:

TO BE FAITHFUL LOYAL and HONEST.

TO HAVE AND TO HOLD (Meaning no more bikini babes. 

No more 6pack boys…no more random hookups! NO 

LIES!!!!You shall touch and sleep with only one person 

for the rest of your LIFE!  Hmm is okay. Lol)

IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH!! (No matter how sick 

your 

spouse gets. Even if worms are coming out of their body 

and they smell bad! You have to be there for them!!!!)

FOR BETTER OR WORSE! (No matter how bad things 

get! Even if Una quarrel and burn down the house! You 

stay!!)

FOR RICHER OR POORER!!! ( hehehe I won’t even touch 

this before some babes will say I’m swearing for them to 

marry a poor man…lol…but if he does get poor you stay)

And the one that freaks me out…. TILL DEATH DO US 

PART! ( meaning that the only thing that should separate 

you people is death!)

Well as for me I fear God too too much!!! We take Gods 

mercies for granted. Trust me if it was to swear JUJU 

most Nigerians will be too afraid to make these vows!!! 

But let me warn you. It’s worse to break a vow made 

before God o!!!! You are basically saying God deal with 

us if we don’t do this.

I watched my mother fulfill her Vows till my father died 

and I’m sure most us also watched and are still watching 

our parents fulfill their vows!

But what’s happening to us in this generation?

Please please please stop getting married because:

You are getting too old – We have a lot of 12 year olds 

walking around in the bodies of 30year olds! Maturity 

isn’t by age! It’s by the spirit! A lot of people are not 

spiritually mature enough!

You want to have kids! – My people if you can’t find 

someone and you want a child and you feel biological 

clock dey tick, either you adopt or do IVF/surrogacy!

Your Friends are married! – Lol. This is a big laugh … A 

lot of them are not HAPPY! But they will put on a show to 

make u feel they have one over you!

You want to cover up your sexuality – Society has 

pushed people into hiding so marriage is now a way to 

prove straightness. ..But that’s another article on the way

Money – You can have the whole world and still feel 

empty!

Your Pastor said… – Lol Is okay. I hope your pastor will 

repair and stay with both of you

Pressure from family and society – Na you go stay inside 

the marriage and wade the deep waters…Nobody will 

come and help you through the turbulent times! 

Marriage 

isn’t a bed of roses. It’s constant Hard work!

Yes you need to be married to get certain appointments 

and positions etc. well if that’s the value you place on it. 

Then good luck to you. Every man with him own. But 

leave others out of it!

In his new post he talks about the pressures of marriage 

and how times have changed – but Nigerian’s have not 

necessarily changed with it.

He wrote:

Why you never marry Na?

Abeg!

Don’t get me wrong I am not anti-marriage! I  

am very Pro Marriage – for the right reasons!

First of all parents need to chill!

Then society needs to shut the hell up!

On a more serious note my opinion is this… 

expecting everyone to get and stay married is 

like expecting everyone to be Rich and  

famous!  IT WONT HAPPEN.

And trust religious Fanatics to say God said a  

man shall leave his house and find a wife…

 etc. etc.

For me MARRIAGE like education is an 

INSTITUTION and not an OBLIGATION!

And life has shown us that neither has

necessarily berthed success! Not all rich

people are educated and vice versa.

In conclusion: Marriage to me should be a 

step taken when you meet someone and you

just feel inside that this person understands

you! They complete you! They get you! They

calm your emotional storms! They lead you 

forward spiritually! When you combine to do

anything, it’s always easier and mostly

 successful! That even when you fight, you

can’t go for long without talking! Someone

that’s patient with you! Someone that doesn’t

need anything materialistic from you to make

them happy! You know you are ready when no 

matter how many hotties u see, even though

you look and applaud, the thought of your

spouse makes them look plain and

unexciting! Someone that makes you want to

rush home every day after work! Someone

you can just sit and talk about ANYTHING

WITH. Someone you can gossip and laugh

constantly with! Someone who inadvertently

brings out all your good sides!

A TEAM MATE! A CONFIDANT! A COMRADE!

A SOLDIER & FINALLY SOMEONE WHO

FEELS LIKE THE HOLY SPIRITS VERSION OF

A PARTNER.

I personally would not walk down the aisle

until I court someone who makes me feel this

way.

The favour attached to marriage is

immeasurable – HE WHO FINDS A WIFE

FINDS A GOOD THING! GOD ALWAYS

BLESSES AND FAVORS MARRIAGES!

Shout out to all the unpretentious married

people brave enough to fulfill their vows and

are living out their marital dreams. It isn’t

easy and I applaud you. God has blessed you

I’m not married, I’ve never been so I am not

speaking from experience. Plus I’m not saying 

my opinions must be accepted.

I’m talking from a reasonable open minded

point of view of a man who interacts with

people on a daily basis. So this is just my take 

on the issue, with regards to singles.May God above 

reveal to us who He has

chosen to spend the restof our lives with and

 may He shower the unions with Love peace  

health wealth loyalty and happiness.

Amen/Amin

And remember …It always Begins with a Choice.

well, that's for Uti, and if you ask my opinion, i 

TOTALLY agree with him.

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